1: You are enough: Gratitude and joy, the courage to be vulnerable enough to really feel grateful and joyful will always trump scarcity. We live in a culture of scarcity, we live in a culture of never enough, never good enough, skinny enough, rich enough, popular enough, bestseller enough and the list goes on. It is found through research that there's only one way out of scarcity and that is enoughness, at some point we need to just say enough, I'm enough.
2: Share your whole story and whole heart: The original definition of courage was to share all of yourself. Sharing your whole story with your whole heart is an act of courage.
3: Engage with the world: The entire idea of wholeheartedness is about engaging with the world from a place of worthiness.
4: Vulnerability is the birthplace of love: Vulnerability is the center of difficult emotion but it's also the birthplace of every positive emotion that we need in our lives; love, belonging, joy, empathy.
5: Get vulnerable: There's like a thin film of terror wrapped around us and if it's not, then we feel I'm not safe enough, I'm not secure enough, I'm not loved enough and at the very bottom I'm not enough. The number one casualty of a scarcity culture is vulnerability. Vulnerability is not just about fear, grief, and disappointment, it's the birthplace of everything we're hungry for, i.e., creativity, joy, faith, and innovation.
6: Let go of your armour: We all have experienced very varying degrees of trauma, disappointment, hard stuff and we armored up. But at some point, that armor no longer serves us and now the weight of the armor is too heavy and it's not protecting you, it’s just keeping you from being seen and known by others. You should let go of your armour before it’s too late and avoid slow brutal unraveling.
7: Speak to yourself as you speak to someone you love: You should talk to yourself like you talk to someone you love. Reach out to someone you trust, and tell your story. Shame cannot survive being spoken.
8: Let go of perfectionism: When perfectionism is driving, shame is always riding shotgun and fear is the annoying backseat driver. We struggle with perfectionism in areas where we feel most vulnerable to shame. Perfectionism is a way of thinking that says, if I look perfect, live perfect, work perfect, I can avoid or minimize criticism, blame, and ridicule. Perfectionism is exactly about what people think and you can't ever do anything brave if you're wearing the straitjacket of what people think.
9: Be grateful: The most difficult emotion is to fully embrace is joy. So, be grateful, you don't know what's gonna happen in ten minutes when you get up, be grateful and that's the key vulnerability and joy.
10: Practice authenticity: Authenticity is a practice and you choose it every day, sometimes every hour of every day and to make an authentic choice, you have to let go of your armor.
