Who Comes First: You or the Group?

Simon Sinek in his video “Who Comes First: You or the Group?” says that there's a paradox to being human, we are at every moment of every day living a paradox we are individuals and we're members of groups. Every day we're forced to make decisions, should I put myself first ahead of the group or should I put the group first ahead of myself and people debate it. It’s a paradox and we have to deal with those stresses every day. Maslov only considered us as individuals, so his bottom line was food, shelter, and security but there is another line of social connection. People don’t commit suicide because they were hungry, people commit suicide because they are lonely which means the social connection is probably more important than food. But people might say that you have to be fed first, therefore, it’s a paradox and it’s unbelievably difficult. If you only put yourself first and your team sees you always putting yourself first you will not command trust or loyalty. In fact, what will happen is they will put themselves first and that's going to be your corporate culture. It is difficult and sacrifices need to be made, everybody has the capacity to be a leader like everybody has the capacity to be a parent, doesn't mean everybody should be a parent, and doesn't mean everybody wants to be a parent. It is the same with leadership, not everybody wants to be a leader, not everybody should be a leader because you're going to make personal sacrifices. On both sides, your family will be sacrificed, at times, to do the right thing for your people, and sometimes you're gonna have to sacrifice your people to do the right things for yourself. It's unbelievably difficult, but if your family feels that you have their back, they'll be supportive when you make those sacrifices and if your people feel that you have their back, then they'll be supportive when you make those sacrifices.